Monday, 16 March 2015


Everyone falls in love, everyday of every week we fall in love.

We fall in love with people, food, clothes and the world. We can fall in love with life.

Love is a wonderful thing and without it in the world I don't believe we would find happiness.

But what happens when that love hurts you every single day of your life, every morning when you wake up? Is it still beautiful?  

  I like to think so. 

Love that hurts helps you to grow, it helps you to realise your boundaries and also how strong you are as a person. When love hurts you it helps you to gain perspective in your life and to make time for yourself and eventually after time, after the healing process - you feel free of the pain.

Do you know the exact moment in which you are free? Did you notice a change in yourself? Did you physically feel a weight lift from your body?

For the past 18 months I have felt trapped, restrained, hurt and suffocated by a love that I couldn't break away from. I couldn't even mention the name of this person without a gut wrenching feeling that I would never feel that way again. 

The moment you realise you are no longer in love with someone or something that will never work is the exact moment you want to shout from the rooftops and tell the world. 

I know the exact moment that this happened for me. 

Recently the magic happened, I feel free, released from a grip I never thought I could break away from. And it came after a full night of crying my heart out in to my pillow. After seeing him out for the first time in over a year, I didn't know how else to react - crying was the only thing my body would allow me to do. 

The tears, the pain, the heartache all of it came back to me and felt like it was taking over me. Physically as well as mentally I felt exhausted, but actually this was a good thing. I woke up feeling more free than ever. I woke up and knew for the final time that I was over it. 

I could speak about him without being angry, I could imagine him with another person and feel happy for him and I could finally get on with my life without worrying about feeling hurt. 

When you finally move forward with life, you don't just forget. And I don't want to forget. I want to live with the things that I have learned and use them everyday in my life. 

Moving on and 'getting over' something or someone means that you no longer feel bitter or angry. You feel content and free. 

Fall in love with yourself. Fall in love with the world. Fall in love with life. 

Monday, 9 March 2015


Today I walked past a homeless guy on Oxford Street.  

Today I realised that we are all in this together. 

Today I decided to try and inspire you to help. 

I walked past a guy on the street with a sign that clearly said he was an ex-serviceman. Putting this in perspective, this guy served our country.  He served his Queen. He protected us. He protected your children. 
All he had was a sleeping bag and one other small bag with him, his whole life spread around him in the doorway of Primark, in one of the busiest places in the UK. So why did nobody help him? Why did nobody even stop to say hello? 

I first walked past this guy two weeks ago when I did the same as every other person on the street, I walked on by and gave him an awkward sympathetic smile. This in ways maybe much worse than just plainly ignoring him - he doesn't need my sympathy, he doesn't need me pity. He needs my help, our help. 
The biggest fear in all human beings is rejection, and rejection is the reason I offered him nothing before today. Every time I tried to offer him lunch or tried to speak to him before I got there my mind would always find the fear of him saying no. 


He is trying to survive Every Single Day, trying to eat, trying to sleep. 

He doesn't know when his next meal will be, he hasn't got a home that he can go to in the evenings to keep warm and curl up on the sofa with a nice hot cup of tea and a biscuit. He doesn't know where he will lay his head tonight to sleep or the next time he will be able to take a warm shower or even see a friendly face. All of these things that we take for granted Every Single Day. 

Today I conquered the stupid fear of rejection and I asked him if he would like some lunch. Immediately he said Yes Please that would be great. 

The smile on his face was heartwarming and all I had done was offered to buy him a meal from McDonald's - something which we take for granted all of the time! When I asked him to choose something from the menu - he wouldn't. He told me that I was buying it so I should choose - I assume this is because he didn't want to be rude and ask for too much?! What is too much?  For me £6.00 for a meal with a hot drink and a bottle of water is never too much. Especially to see someone so happy, so grateful. 

Why do we believe that we are better than homeless people? Why do we believe that we are better than people that are on a different path of discovery to us? Why does driving around in a Mercedes make him any better than the guy on the bus? 

Objects and 'stuff' do not make us better than others around us, we are all in this together. We are all trying to do the best we can to live the life we want and be happy. But we should never forget that everything that we own could be ripped away from us in a second. 

What would you be worth? What would you have given the world? Who have you helped that could repay the favour? 

Or have you been too wrapped up in your own life to realise that everybody needs a helping hand from time to time. 

If anybody who reads this post can think about it next time they see somebody sleeping rough on the streets - put yourself in their shoes. Just think about the everyday things that you take for granted.
Buy someone one the streets a meal, sit and speak to them for half an hour if you really don't want to buy them anything - but don't just ignore them. 

I was already in a rush when I stopped to buy lunch for him, but next time when I see him I will make sure I say hello and ask some questions, speak to him. Everybody deserves friendship. 

Please try and help others out - we all need to work together to make the world and safer and nicer place for us all to live. 

You can donate now to Shelter or Crisis  if you are in the UK and it only takes 2 minutes out of 1440 minutes in your day.

If everybody who reads this post donates £5 to one of the charities I have listed - the world will be a much happier place for people sleeping rough. 

In 2014  2,744 people slept rough on any one night - lets help fight homelessness. Give someone a home, give someone your Time. Time is more valuable than anything else will ever be. 

Be Kind. 

Pay it forward. 

Make someone smile. 

Don't wait.